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Stuck in the Talking Stage Forever? Here's How to Break the Cycle and Get a Real Answer
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Stuck in the Talking Stage Forever? Here's How to Break the Cycle and Get a Real Answer

The 'talking stage' was supposed to be a brief pit stop on the road to actual dating — not a permanent residence. If you've been 'getting to know each other' for three months and still don't have plans for a second cup of coffee, something has gone sideways. Here's how to recognize when you're being strung along and what to do about it.

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